First impressions are not always right!
Do you find yourself falling too quickly for someone?
When you first meet someone, go on a first date, or feel someone “likes” you, do you feel an immediate spark, a rash of excitement and a fast track dreaming of a happily ever after?
Have there been times when your date seemed attentive and caring at first and then they never called or ghosted you? Do you often get gaslighted?
Α lot of the times it is our behaviour that determines others reactions to us, and it is something we all need to be aware of. On the other hand, it doesn’t mean that we should give ourselves all the blame, as most of the time there are a lot of other factors that play an important role in how others act, that might have nothing to do with you.
If you often get ahead of yourself when dating, find yourself to be too committed too soon, or if you frequently find yourself on adifferent page than the person you’re seeing and as a result to often endure disappointment –consider a different approach to dating that includes a balance between your emotions, your logic, and your intuition.
When you first meet someone, go on a first date, or feel the attention of a new person, do you feel an immediate spark, a rash of excitement and an intonation to dream of a happily ever after? Do you catch yourself thinking too quickly that maybe this is the one and there could be something special here. Do you, sometimes, get the feeling that your date seems attentive and caring at first and then just never calls or avoids seeing you? Do you often find yourself feeling gaslighted and wondering what went wrong?
Following solely your emotions and your excitement can be distressing when dating. On the other hand, having your walls up and being afraid to show people your feelings can also leave you uneasy and lonely. How can you strike that balance of being open to new people yet read the cues accurately? How can you protect yourself and not rush to conclusions and trap yourself in “intimate relationships” that do not actually exist?
Falling for the “wrong” person can be a painful and frustrating experience. However, it’s possible to break the cycle and start making better choices when it comes to love. Here are some tips on how to stop yourself from falling for someone who at the end if the day will be “wrong” for you:
- Identify your patterns: Take a step back and reflect on your past relationships. Try to identify any patterns or commonalities in the people you have been attracted to. This can help you understand what you are looking for and what to avoid in the future.
- Set standards and boundaries: Make a list of what you want and don’t want in a partner. This will help you set standards and boundaries for yourself and make it easier to recognize when someone isn’t a good fit.
- Take your time: Don’t rush into a relationship. Take your time getting to know someone before committing to anything serious. This will help you avoid getting attached to the wrong person.
- Listen to your intuition: Trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Don’t ignore red flags or warning signs.
- Focus on self-improvement: Work on yourself and your own happiness. This will attract healthier relationships and give you the confidence to recognize and avoid toxic ones.
- Be open-minded: Keep an open mind and be willing to try new things. This can lead to meeting new people and expanding your horizons.
- Seek support: Don’t be afraid to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. They can provide you with guidance and perspective.
Remember, breaking patterns and habits takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and trust that you can make better choices in the future.